Communication Tip
...about intention
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Communication Tip to read more about intention.
To follow this tip you must be willing to look at intention from the premise that intention
equals result. This is a very challenging place to operate from.
For instance:
I said I wanted a certain new client. I did all the
right things, yet the client declined. Why would I go through the motions,
truly believing that I intended to get the new client, all that work, if my
unconscious intention was to fail? For me it was to discover that I wanted
to be right, that they wouldn't recognize "genius" if it bit them. H'm,
in this case my ego-mind was more intent on being right than succeeding.
Back to homework. Many teachers lie when they pass out homework and some
students know it. What many teachers communicate non-verbally is:
"For those who want to do the homework here it is, however, if you don't
want to do it I most likely won't make you do it. And, you know from experience, even if
you do turn it in I'll allow you to do it in poor penmanship.
As a matter of fact, you can sometimes count on me to
forget to collect it. Also, as you've noticed, there really isn't any
immediate consequence for not turning in homework; you know that I do not
call your parents and tell them you've broken the homework agreement you and
they made with me."
For everyone's homework to be done consistently, to
a satisfactory
standard, one starts with intention.
That is to say, a teacher can honestly believe they are
intending for everyone to do the homework, yet find out later that that's not
what they were up to (read
The
Homework Story). Results other than envisioned always reveal another
(unconscious) agenda.
If you have a student who
is failing a good place to start from is to ask yourself what do you want to be
right about rather than have the student succeed? Complete this sentence,
"I want to be right, that...."
If you'd like to discuss this with the coach please do
The [free] Clearing Process for Professionals
first.
For more about intention check out the
Communication Skills Tutorial for Teachers,
or, imitation of communication.
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