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About the Abuse tutorial: v 10.10Explanation as to why American English must be your native tongue.This website approaches interpersonal/intrapersonal communication differently than what’s being taught in schools, universities, colleges, and academies worldwide.* Nationwide, 25% of US college freshman require
remedial composition and comprehension courses to learn what their K-12 “teachers”
failed to communicate. This is partly because students everywhere are
only introduced to the fundamentals and
principles of communication; this helps us understand North America’s
40% divorce rate, characterized by violent verbally abusive blaming. No one wants a brain surgeon who has only been “introduced” to the brain.
This website makes a distinction between
communicating and talking. We know when communication has taken
place because problems are resolved through to mutual satisfaction
whereas with talking, unwanted problems persist. Specifically, we define
communication by the results. I’m unaware of any college or
academy that offers or
requires education/health-care majors to attend a Leadership Training Program.
With leadership training one must demonstrate an ability to consistently
manifest stated intentions; such as, homework turned in on time and
neatly (no excuses, no reasons). A Leadership Training Program includes
one 3-hour session each week for all four years; graduation is via peer
evaluation—specifically, classmates must report that they’ve had
continued successes communicating with him/her; all one's fellow
students must vote yes to
the question, “Would I want this person teaching my child?” Education majors have been taught by
Instructors/Professors who use the Adversarial Communication Model**
and so they themselves teach using use the same model. None are taught
how to create/use any other communication model. Worldwide most people are addicted to blame; this
website addresses problems from cause. This point of view requires
different conversations which are extremely difficult for anyone—but
more so when using non-English language.***
This website assigns unique definitions to commonly
used words and language with which even most English speaking natives
are not familiar. Schools do not insist upon graduates knowing the
definitions to some extremely important words.
For example: No two teachers
in any school can quote the same definition of the words,
responsibility, integrity, withholds, or abuse; few have quotable
definitions of the words vow, agreement, aim, target, objective,
mission, goal, or purpose. Few, if any, schools have a quotable purpose,
one with which everyone is aligned, ergo each teacher has his/her own
personal purpose. * If I were to ask
you for a definition of the word communication you’d tell me what you
believe it to be, and, your definition would not improve my ability to
manifest the results I say I want. No two teachers have the same
definition of the word communication. ** The Adversarial
Communication Model is easy to identify; it’s characterized by
unconscious irresponsible blaming, withholding, knee-jerk arguing,
making another(s) wrong, badmouthing, and getting ahead at the expense
of others.
*** Over a period of
25-years our forums have had thousands of viewers but few questions; this is due in part because most
people with a problem Google “abuse” and they come across our
Dear Gabby
Letters. They read a few letters and find that they have been stating
their
problem from blame. In other words, they automatically intuit Gabby’s
reply, ergo no need to ask. Use this Comment form for comments/feedback (Free-no registration)
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