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Responsibility pg. 1 of 2

"A" Definition of the Word Responsibility

"A" refers to the fact that there are many dictionary definitions; for me the following is the easiest to understand.

Every teacher that has ever existed has done his/her best to teach the subject of responsibility. Something about how the subject has been communicated, verbally and non-verbally, continues to produce confusing less-than-desirable results.

• A customer sued McDonalds for a hot coffee burn.
• Smokers sue cigarette companies for lung damage.
• Divorce lawyers thrive on the blame (adversarial) communication model, the model taught to education and health-care majors and parents alike.
• Judges award child custody to the blaming parent whose abusive leadership communication skills caused the friction.
• Teachers resort to pathetic begging and striking for funding, blaming others for their inability to effect satisfactory wages, parent participation or student-learning through clear communication.

The above reveals that there is a difference (measured by results) between saying the right words when "teaching" responsibility and communicating responsibly. The premise: When responsibility is "taught/discussed" by an unconscious parent, or a "teacher" stuck in ignorance, hypocrisy, and blame the communication doesn't get gotten in a way that is automatically actionable.

Some examples:

• If a teacher can't inspire his/her own child and spouse to opt for healthy choices or to consistently honor the housework-chore agreements, without prodding reminders, then anything the teacher may tell a student about integrity—eating healthfully, creating/keeping agreements, or responsibility, are just good ideas (I.e. Overweight teacher of a nutrician class—one who continually thwarts the success of his/her own nutrician class teacher.)
• If a teacher is withholding a significant thought from (is deceiving) his/her parents/spouse, then he/she is hypocritically, non-verbally, communicating, "Do as I say not as I do."
• When a truth is delivered via hypocrisy it's heard and stored but seldom acted upon automatically. For many the advice (wise truths) from well-meaning but hypocritical teachers/parents, about agreements, lying, gossiping, or eating correctly, still isn't acted upon automatically; instead, most are driven to not do what they have been "taught," what they intuitively know works.

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